But the way he goes about it is you need to exercise today. You also have the feeling that something must be wrong between you two because it feels like there are more bad days than good ones lately. (Side note, I knew Id keep my current partner when, about 3 hours after telling him about how I wanted to be healthier and asking him to help me, he walked in on me stress-eating a peanut-butter and chocolate chip sandwich after a particularly stressful phone call, and his only comment was You know, thatd taste better if you gave it 15 seconds in the microwave. Thats love, folks.). When your boyfriend stops expressing his love for you, then it is time you took stock of the situation. Now I think to some extent I was partly in therapy to get ready to leave him. Like, does he have any evidence on which to base this idea that you actually can change people? Its more complicated when mental illness is involved, especially when youre legitimately working on improving yourself everything about yourself (and your relationships) feels like something you can work hard and improve, and if it doesnt happen it feels like a personal failing. Theres also the fact that you are depressed, at least for now (although congrats on making what sounds like a lot of progress toward improvement). But that doesnt sound like whats happening here. You know your boyfriend and your own situation better than we do, so I trust you to figure out who and what you are dealing with and take steps to care for yourself. The goalposts will keep moving. It was exhausting for both of us. Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. Let your thoughts sit while your jealousy simmers down a little bit. I like to have a logical reason for everything I do and feel, and I dont have a lot of other problem-solving methods. Do yourself a favor. Ive been on both sides of the Have you eaten a food today? So hes trying to use your own recovery to manipulate you youre not just exercising because you want to, youre exercising because HE wants you to in the way he wants. The focus is making me incredibly uncomfortable, though. Or because he has decided you arent feeling magically better enough yet? 3 Turn-Ons & Major Turn-Offs, 3 Reasons Why Men Pull Away (And 1 Way To Win Him Back). TL;DR: I hope you have good progress with your healing, and that either your boyfriend learns to be less of a jerk stat, or that youre in a position to be able to move on/out without him, because you deserve so much more support and respect. They are not feelings police tools. Anger is about taking, not giving. That doesnt. Im sorry, but in my experience, the only good answer to this sort of situation is to dump the guy. 1) It really doesnt appear to be helping you (being berated and controlled is bad for humans) He then said that he was only trying to make her into a better person. Do you want to be like my mum, self esteem completely destroyed, fleeing an abusive 30 year relationship from someone who always thought you were not good enough? The Romantic Comedy You Should Watch This Valentines Day, Based On Your Zodiac Sign. I wasnt being adventurous enoughby knowing for myself what I wanted to drink. LW, your story really, really made the back hairs of my neck stand up. LW, Im not sure if what worked for me would work for you it requires a baseline of respect that your boyfriend seems to lack. Second, this worries me, the idea that his view is likely if she just does these things, I wont have to deal with her being depressed.. This is another clue that the boyfriend isnt all that invested in the LWs progress toward real, positive change. When I was unhappy with the way her behaviour impacted me, our living space, or our relationship I saw the fact she wouldnt do the easy, obvious things I told her she ought to as indications that she wasnt actually committed to her claims or our life together. Youll be happier and lighter without the constant criticism and monitoring, and hell be happier with someone who has the qualities he wants in his new, improved partner (or hell find a willing victim for Coach Body Police: Infinity Annoying Steps To the New You!). Ive read a ton of stories from people who were pushed, and their health was badly hurt. Respect is really important in relationships. You deserve to be with someone who shows you respect who likes you the way you are, who isnt always trying to fix you and who listens when you ask him to stop certain behaviours rather than telling you your request is ridiculous. No. He could be funny, kind, generous, and decent. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and living together for 1. It doesnt matter what a partner is interested in controlling, your food intake, your hairstyle, how much work you do, how much sleep you get; when theyre trying to control you and cannot seem to be redirected, it is time to take the advice of the Doctor. I hope Im wrong, but LW, I think your boyfriend would do the exact same thing. Alas, LWs BF appears to be one of them. He used to love visiting your family, friends and all the places you like going to. Whether it was a lot or a little, it will carry you to tomorrow. Run. And theyre not omnipotent (well, actually, maybe they are?! Do you know whether his goals match up with your goals? For a relationship to survive a crisis like that, you have to like the person (not just love them) and respect the person (not just love them). Exactly. But really nothing in that letter sounds like a happy, healthy time. LW, I dont think your bf loves you for you. This was more the province of all the callow youths back in college defending obviously indefensible positions for the sake of argument. He is not playing Logick Master, he is just trying to figure out if things make freakin sense. Then, repeat what you want him to do and make the boundary plain: This right here: to the point that he says its the stupidest thing hes ever heard is verbal abuse. Continuing to put in effort for someone who isnt putting any into you is only going to lead to more frustration and resentment neither of which will make either one of you happy or satisfied long term. Even though I cant even do hosting as much as Id like and my home is a bit of a mess. (From knowing my mother I now if shed had any reservations she would have allowed herself to tell me about them as many times as she could. Listen to his response and try to . We both loved science fiction. How much cleaning does HE do? It says hes putting himself and his comfort ahead of your joint comfort together, and also your personal comfort and enjoyment of your own life. I wish I could say I dumped him, but in fact what happened is we got through the sucky date, and he later told me our relationship had gotten stale, citing that fight as an example. They are not your child who needs to be emotionally spanked. Not immediately or perfectly, but noticeably and more over time. You didnt give details, but you did say that for much of your life, youve struggled with being constantly undermined. Very well said. It sings a familiar refrain, and it so neatly echoes what your Jerkbrain sounds like or sounded like before you started getting treatment for your depression. I think its easy for us to say DTMFA because we know none of the other persons good qualities. Or, if you can handle it, let them know that you think your friendship has run its course because you are at two different points in life. Leaving an abusive partner later on didnt scare me as much. Thing is, Ive been dealing with depression, anxiety, and etc for a few years now and Im JUST NOW to the point where doing even X is a major accomplishment. I told him that, he asked me what he should do instead, and I couldnt answer him. (Weirdly, by giving my anger a physical expression, I think it sticks around LONGER than if I had not worked it out.). What kind of wording do you want me to use? So if your partner was reacting in line with frustration and reacting to objective, observable behaviors that contradicted therapeutic actions you had agreed to, then that could be a reasonable reaction. Well, thats it, isnt it? 2. LW, I think the Captain has a very good point about how you should be proud of the progress youve made the fact that you know that you are a person who can help themself and that you dont need someone else to be your Life Mechanic is a pretty damn good place to be, and some people never make it there. But thats the best I can think of that might be of some help. Neither one is going to work. One of our deepest needs as humans is to feel understood, and true understanding is not possible without empathy. So, stop trying to control theirs and focus on what you can controlyour own behavior and responses. Sometimes she gives me general approval to do something if shes having a rough time (food check-ins) and other things only count as very specific situational approval that has to be renewed any time I do it (phoning her psych, removing sharp objects). Do you know what actually made me feel so much better? Anonymous. Id still be loved (and unhassled!!) In the latter casetry the scripts here for some firmer words of quit that already, mention that you *have* a therapist and this is their *job* and his job now is to be a listening ear and a source of happiness and relaxation, and if he still refuses to comply, dump him. Then perhaps from there they can move towards leaving. Id run away and never read Captain Awkward again, probably, with my Jerkbrain cackling in the background gleefully. When Dad was having a pity party, I flat out told him that he had driven her away with his constant controlling and put downs. This is poor form, and Boyfriend really needs to wake up and smell the coffee that THINGS ARE MORE OKAY NOW, BACK THE FUCK OFF, YOURE NOT NEEDED. But my partner punishes me emotionally when I eat unhealthy food and dont exercise just sounds really bad out of context. And he gets a positive comment from me every time I am aware. *nodnod* We ended up breaking up about a year later. That is some toxic logic there! It would gross me out to have someone trying to act like a parent. He isnt saying anything because there are no rules anymore and nothing is official between the two of you. Feeling bad when you are in a stressful situation doesnt make you bad, it makes you normal. And if you have depression??? Hes demanding you account for the stuff you do when hes not there, and is a condescending asshole about it. Emotions are *who we are* and theres no such thing as a feeling or desire that is incorrect or illegitimate. They write because stuff is horrible and awful and they cant work out how to fix it (without breaking up). That is some high-level head games. Ive seen it with Dan Savage, Dear Prudence, and lots of other people who offer advice in various forms of media. Again, fine line. Or is he expecting you to just bootstrap your way to optimal nutrition and well being? If what he says pisses you off, take it as a good sign that your self-respect and self-preservation instincts are waking up and working. This may, sadly, be a dump him situation. Luckily, John Howell has already worded it beautifully , http://thoughtcatalog.com/john-w-howell/2013/05/a-narcissists-love-letter/. Hes developed some very strong and unrealistic expectations about ways LW will change. You will lose your boyfriend if you clutch him too tightly. Honestly its tough. The first impression is good and you two exchange numbers. Except theyre not actually asking YOU whats best for you. But, if that was all there was to it, he wouldnt be getting angry when she isnt doing those things, or dismissing and belittling her words. I get the feeling that even if LW does everything the boyfriend wants, and eats all her veggies and does a few triathlons and gets a job modeling for Vogue and is elected President of the Universe, there will always still be something else for him to criticize. OopsI didnt see your reply to my first post when I posted this one. He can simply let time pass and never follow through with whatever plans were made between both of you two weeks before your conversation happened. That can be so helpful. But in my mind, that state of challenge turns into a nightmare if thats ALL youre doing. (Like money, work, how one treats others possessions, punctuality, use or misuse of power, objectively insulting words, etc.) And if he wont respect boundaries, keeps behaving like this? Or bringing you vegetable soup when youre too depressed to cook? A guy might do it, but he'll typically feel like a loser or weakling for asking for support or even talking about his feelings. Usually in the interest of my mental and physical health, but also a little bit because living with someone who has panic attacks can be exhausting especially when they dont always take the best care of themselves (guilty). It could be as simple as he just no longer feels like being around you, which means there isnt much motivation for making an effort either. but its not like, oh man, now that I exercise I never feel sad! I had a boyfriend like that once. I have two of those exes and there my collection ends! So I dont get to do this as well as I used to when husband is away. Listen respectfully and be open to talking about his feelings. But I only understood that in theory, I guess, because in practice, I was still trying to second-guess his desires left, right, and center. Some guys want to be in a serious relationship; others dont. And its also vanishingly unlikely that he can be moved out of the fixer mode. LW, Im so sorry youre dealing with this. That said, Ive gotten him to doctors, fed him, and made sure he took his meds at his worst; Ive helped to monitor his moods and symptoms and brought changes up for his consideration when I notice changes. 3. He both wanted me to look up to him, admire him, and follow his lead, and for me to be a more confident, assertive person who dressed sexier, partied heartier, and loved to dance. nuanced (especially when exercise is not the only project Im undertaking at the moment.) Dating you is a privilege you get to grant people, not a burden someone is doing you the favour of shouldering. ME. ), the only logical course of action is taking that into account when youre dealing with people. Dont. You are more important than he is. He never seemed to understand that these personality traits conflictedor at least, they conflicted in me, for us. But I know we never get the whole story with these letters. This resonates with me on so many levels, but Im going to send on some advice from future-me that you can enjoy, or disregard as is entirely your desire, because I truly believe that you are the boss, expert and CEO of you. While you sort out how you feel about continuing in the relationship, my suggested script for when your boyfriend starts telling you what to do or expressing his disappointment in you is I dont like it when you act like my Life Coach, please stop telling me what I should eat/do/how I should exercise, and/or From now on, I dont want you to tell me how to change or improve myself, at all. Be blunt and say the things that are on the tip of your tongue: No. You can also use the online chat. How does this affect you? It makes me feel bad when you dont eat your vegetables because I caaaaaaaaaaare about you.. Encouragement works so much better than harping on all the ways you could be doing more. I should have left him at various points throughout the relationship but I just didnt see how bad it was until I had the vantage of hindsight. Also, as an ex-smoker, I agreed with you on the you cant change other people front. I live on the other side of this equation. Your current boyfriend sounds a bit like my first one. In hindsight there was nothing he could have done. Let me give an example. Is exercise great for depression? If you need something short and sweet to say to your BF to stop the mansplaining, and to allow a moment for your brain to get into gear, try this: Thus: Its more like, I am too physically exhausted to self-sabotage by not getting enough sleep. When I struggle with depression, I am fighting back against the numbness that settles over my body and mind standing up for yourself and your own care is such a wonderful and inspiring thing, wishing you all the best! Ding! I could write something very similar, except were only at 20 years. I am so mad at you for having cancer! See the problem? Its inexcusable in any of those forms!!! Also, for what its worth, I hate the Im so logical, therefore I know everything and Im right all the time thing. He is not interested in you. He just got bored, moved country and started again without divorcing. Make it clear to your boyfriend that you don't like it when he talks to her. Affection is not only limited to physical touch -- he may also avoid showing affection through words. I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a wonderful person who has low moods too. But when you mention that you wish your partner would eat healthier to be healthier, that's OK. Thank you for the link. "And if . This may also disarm any exes who set out to be hostile. The internal CSP/hair-pulling/cutting voice is bad enough, but the absolute best thing ever (vomit) is when someone decides to be your saviour, and heal you of your ~habits~ Nothing on earth is more supportive and caring than demanding that you roll your sleeves up/remove your hat/prove youre behaving well. Take a step back, and allow the other person to show you what they want. That stupidest thing Ive ever heard bit set off major alarm bells for me, too. Poetry of Nope is my new favourite phrase! You can tell that he isnt as into you anymore because of the lack of physical contact between both of you. My sister is not depressed and does not need my help, I just want to provide it because I care about her. Because my fianc and I worked things out and are in a good place now, I am hesitant to just say ~DTMF~, but your boyfriend needs to realize that monitoring someone elses habits (even your eating habits!) How can I respond when he gets mad at me for not being good enough? Friend, I miss you and Id love to see your face. "You need to STOP chasing him immediately. The world outside of math isnt like that. Because I didn't have my phone, he started asking me these questions in person. This boyfriend does not sound like good news to me. He likes the you in his head that he wants to shape you into being. I find that when one person is overly invested in helping someone else, its often an indicator that they have their own issues which theyre trying to feel better about. Similarly, with the do more cleaning thing theres plenty of plausible deniability, because living with someone who doesnt pick up after themselves sucks. Did they worry when you left the house in a revealing outfit? If I lean my head the other way, I can see a guy who is panicking about his partner being depressed and going about it all wrong. Not really. Another pertinent question: How does BF react to advice given by LW? So I get what it feels like to see your partner unhappy and struggling. Good luck LW, positive thoughts your way! 5 Be Friendly Some exes are best handled by treating them in a friendly manner. But this is what worried me most when I read your letter. Controlling guys will often immediately come on strong, which can be very flattering. Maybe your boyfriend can learn different ways of responding to you and learn how to respect your stated wishes without requiring to justify them. It doesnt matter whether he hasnt ridden in a month or he did so a couple of days ago. Earlier in your relationship, your partner was always interested in finding out things about you, from your goals and dreams, to your likes and dislikes, and even how your day was. Of course you want him to make an effort to wine and dine you; his time, effort, and energy shows he cares about you. One day, I might even believe it. With that said, the author adds the context that the dog was originally her ex-boyfriend's, and he had been trying to get his dog back for a while. My partner and I take walks, and thats about as far as it goes at this point. Am I the only one who says nope the fuck out of there yesterday? Look, Im sure there are people out there who respond to tough love or whatever bullshit he thinks he is doing, but frankly, Ive never met someone struggling with depression and low self-esteem who did. Whenever hes away, I tend to either eat that or GF pizza (pizza is another of those things) in fact, I might go out and get myself GF pizza for dinner tonight. Maybe this will be a huge relief and weight of your boyfriends shoulders once he knows he doesnt have to be responsible for your wellbeing. He wants me to exercise more, eat healthier, help out more with the cleaning, and take better care of myself. I hope that your boyfriend is willing to listen, and that he can eventually be supportive in the way that *you need him to be. What happened to the man who always had his arm wrapped around your shoulder and never looked at another girl as long as you were both together? What places in the city do you love going to most? That is how that behaviour makes me feel. It really doesnt feel like he likes you. How can I respond when he gets mad at me for not being good enough? Rest days are a vital part of an exercise routine. ! I dont want to invalidate anyone who found exercise very helpful in getting better, but the reason depressed people find people constantly mentioning exercise so wearing is it honestly doesnt work for everyone. Ways this manifests: BOY does he like to research before making a decision. For example, he seems to want a skinny girlfriend, and she wants a boyfriend who isnt a nagging douchecanoe. Even from a 5-year-old thats pretty immature. My father was an abusive asshole and Mum leaving after 30 years was the best thing she could have done (other than leave earlier). Incidentally, I also learned a lot about my own self-care for times when hes having an episode, so I dont get so easily sucked in. He never lashes out with his anger, he just doesnt talk much when hes mad. The specific focus of the boyfriend on LWs food intake and physical exercise is major red flag. Eat veggies! offered as a panacea for your depression sounded so much like when my fianc would tell me just drive more even on days when I was really struggling with memories of past car accidents. I was your boyfriend (not literally but, you know, in the way he acts) with my ex-wife. The Captains comment, For a relationship to survive a crisis like that, you have to like the person (not just love them) and respect the person (not just love them) especially rings true for me. As someone wisely said much upthread, this choice doesnt directly effect me, so it is not my business. Because Reasons? Thats one form of love, I think: trusting the other person enough to let go and let them figure it out on their own. Founded in 2010, Thought Catalog is owned and operated by The Thought & Expression Company, Inc. For over a decade, we've been at the bleeding edge of media, pioneering an infrastructure for creatives to flourish both artistically and financially. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you bear in mind that love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship you can still love someone deeply and make the choice that the relationship isnt healthy for either of you. It doesnt sound like you two ever consensually negotiated a relationship with unequal roles and a power imbalance, nor does it sound like what you want. He seems to have set up this power imbalance in the relationship where he is right and the one to be listened to and you are the one who needs to be told what to do and that makes me very uncomfortable. Youre should-ing all over yourself. Stuart Smalley (aka Sen. Al Franken). Think hard and make plans. Probably better to stop and say why am I angry about this?. A few weeks ago I started to notice that, well, he kind of smelled bad. Im sure your partner wants you to be happy and healthy and active, but why? Also, it annoys the crap out of me. A big thing about this for me is the control he seems to want over your life. And when youve told him that hes being unhelpful, and hes told you its the stupidest thing Ive ever heard that you might have your own thoughts on your health and what you need That is him being a jerk to you. You are the person who knows whats best for you. this bit has me almost crying. When I started to develop some self-confidence! So I gave him a list of things he can do to help. Hlepy is a word I learned over at Making Light. 1. Your efforts to change your partner's contrary viewpoints (financial, political, religious, or otherwise) have begun to feel demeaning or disrespectful to them, as betraying not only your. It sounds like BF is unhappy with the relationship, but feels like LW has it in her control to make the relationship better, so he is taking it out on her for not being the idealized version of herself. They are raw cookie dough and you can see the cookie and you want the cookie, but the cookie dough is just not done enough, but you really want that cookie so much and you know how much better it would be if it were finished baking.and so you are mad that they arent doing what it takes to be a cookie. Look again at your list the next day and revise it. Its not that simple, and boyfriend ought to stop acting like it is. So in order to save your relationship, you need to find out what is going on and take corrective action if necessary. And thats the thing, I guess. Good luck LW, and I hope you get to see how much better life can be when someone isnt actively holding back your awesomeness. ", But It is indeed hard. I became severely physically disabled in my early twenties. Validation. If you were kind of hiding from them because you were depressed and have shame about how long its been, let it go. I have many fond memories of him. . If you're not ready, he needs to chill or go find some other hole to fill. Hlepy people may accept correctionor they may not. Hlep is that thing that looks like help and is presented in a context that would normally surround helpuntil you blink and look again and realize that it isnt help at all. Slowly cut these people out of your life. But when theres anger, that flips the whole dynamic on its head. Set the boundary with your boyfriend, let him say whatever he's going to say, and try not to internalize any of it. Is he happy? Oh god, my parents did that toothey made fun of my (snack) food choices all the time, which was severely hypocritical as they were the ones who taught me that that behavior was absolutely not okay (when directed towards an adult). I 100 million percent second this. You still get to decide whether you like him. But it still got on my last nerve, and undermined my motivation to develop healthy habits. Your boyfriends suggestions dont sound like the ones I would give to someone struggling with depression. You dont get a vote and you dont get to write my State of the Me address. Its like saying well, be careful not to be happy. I saw progress though, and it made it easier to wade though until it was resolved. Some men just dont want to be committed; it is not your responsibility to change that. He immediately misses you. Then he can treat you even worse. But when he starts talking about how hes going to end it they cant help but treat you differently. LW, as someone who struggles with depression with a spouse who struggles with depression, heres what concerns me about your letter: Your boyfriend is expecting you to be accountable to a list of tasks hes set, rather than treating you with compassion and helping you help yourself. He was always enthusiastic if i learned a new skill, or developed an improved routine, or got a new job, but didnt hassle me when I wasnt improving. I usually agree with our captain, but this time I see all those scripts as an exercise in trying to change him into a reasonable boyfriend even as hes trying to change you into someone who eats her vegetables. Your partner becomes angry not in response to specific things that they observe, but by broad elements that they infer. See if there are ways you can make some of the self-care you want her to do easier. avert! But for it to be helpful, she has to want to include me. I dont think relationships where somebody tries to mold you into their vision of you are a good thing. This helps us because it is a concrete thing he can do (yay I am helping someone I love) and actually helps me. If you are depressed, and your partner likes and loves you, theres a real risk they too will experience some sadness that could develop into depression. He may, on some level, have convinced himself that all will be right with the world if youd just conform to his standards, but if he really, truly cared, hed look on the changes youve already made as big positives and cheer you on as you continue your journey towards better living. I have been with my husband for 23 years, and he is chronically clinically depressed. I am an overly logical person. If you are experiencing some or all of the following signs, it could be that your boyfriend has stopped making an effort: Your conversations are brief, and he doesnt appear to be as interested in your life anymore. No matter a guys reason for not putting in an effort, it doesnt excuse his behavior. So you meet this guy. Im so disappointed in you. That means I dont want to run my food intake by you any more., To be absolutely clear, you should not have to justify any of this, and you are not the one making it weird by setting boundaries here. 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